Course Description

Communicating To Results

Communicating To Results

Beyond Judgments To Actions

(and beyond reasons, explanations, excuses, and understanding)

During this interactive course, we will answer all of your questions about this new style of communicating which includes all your actions. Also, you will receive supervised practice improving these new skills. You can enter at any time and stay as long as you want. You will notice measurable results within a few months.

The foundation of this new method of communicating and acting comes from Dave Ellis’s education in computer science and his 40 years of teaching (communicating) in an unusual manner. This breakthrough in communications is influenced by quantum physics and a new linguistic structure that builds on and goes beyond his seven books, which have been read and studied by millions. 

When communicating and acting this way, you focus on what you can directly observe in others while practicing radical self-responsibility and moving beyond judgments. This emphasizes controlling only that which you can control (your actions) and surrendering to everything else (the past, the future, the behavior of others, and your judgments). You honor your emotions and thoughts while knowing that you cannot control either one of them.

For a more complete description of this way of communicating which eliminates all excuses and most upsets, read this website and the articles below, or attend an introductory class.

An Overview of Communicating To Results

Benefits to You

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  • 20 or more classes for 90 minutes each.
    • All are live and can be attended virtually. And, some will be face-to-face.
    • Each one is recorded.
    • Your first class is right after you join and most every Thursday at 11:00 am Pacific. 
    • They will be interactive with variety (short lectures, guest speakers, music, movement, lots of practice, and group discussion).
  • Plus (optional)
  • One workshop for 2½ days.
    • It will also be interactive with short lectures, guest speakers, music, movement, lots of practice, and group discussion.
    • The sessions will be broadcast live and recorded.
    • The dates are September 18-20, 2026, in the Bay Area. It’s a beautiful time of the year in San Francisco. It will start late Friday afternoon, continue Saturday, and end by 3:30 p.m. on Sunday. 
    • Accommodations will be announced two to three months ahead and depend on how many participants will attend.
  • A comprehensive description of Communicating To Results: Beyond Judgments To Actions.
  • Dozens of strategies for specific actions to use to get what you want.
  • Detailed suggestions for practicing.
  • AIDave.AI, which is an artificial intelligence agent that answers your questions related to Dave’s past teaching and previous best strategies.
  • Downloads of all seven of our books.
  • Access to all of our audio programs, video programs, and recordings of past webinars.
  • A participant website that facilitates community interaction and gives access to all the new material.
  • MyOwnAssist.AI and CTR-Assist.AI which you can use during the course to help manage your actions and practice this new way of communicating.
  • For coaches, access to LifeCoachAssist.AI, which helps coaches minimize paperwork and improve in-person coaching time.
  • An opportunity to volunteer at the workshop and the local gatherings.
  • Measurable results in every area of your life. You identify specific goals that you’d like to achieve during the course, set up ways to measure those goals, and then track your progress with feedback.
  • Within a short time, you can observe changes in your actions and rapid progress toward your results. Even in two free classes, you will learn powerful ways to communicate more effectively.
  • Our commitment is to share as much of this new style of sending and receiving for no charge. Our most concise description and many of our best suggestions are on this website, which will be expanded and updated during the course.
  • We will focus on everything that most human beings want, as described in Human Being. This includes happiness, love, health, wealth, and contribution. We also follow many of the suggestions outlined in that book’s Power Processes and the same approach toward being human described in that book.
  • Several ways to quickly increase your happiness, health, love, wealth, and contribution.
  • A wonderful community of people exploring, discovering, and practicing together.
  • A personal AI assistant that keeps track of what you’ve done, what you plan to do, what you want, what’s worked, and what hasn’t.
  • Frequent access to Life Inventory.
    • Begin solving your biggest problems and achieving your most important goals by repeatedly doing the Life Inventory.
  • Downloads of full-color copies of all seven of our books
    • Each book is designed to assist you in clarifying the results you want and developing multiple action plans to get them. These interactive books can change the way you act.
  • Dozens of audio programs
    • These represent the best suggestions that we have to offer, including a three-day Falling Awake Workshop created just for audio. These are interactive presentations to assist you as you develop the specific results you want and invent many new ways to achieve the life you desire.
  • Over 120 video programs
    • Some of these are multipart series, including carefully edited versions of a three-day Falling Awake Workshop and a Life Coaching Workshop. You can skip around to find what interests you.

Costs - Price

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  • $150 to $3,000 based on your income and if you do the workshop.
  • Without the workshop, one day of last year’s income.
    • Or, one day of what you spent if you didn’t pay taxes on most of your income.
    • If you aren’t clear about the price, contact us.
  • With the workshop, two days. ($300 to 3,000)
  • Two of the classes can be attended at no cost.
  • We offer money back guarantees.
  • Show up. Spend many hours with us.
    • Your first class is right after you join and most every Thursday at 11:00 am Pacific. 
    • The workshop is September 18-20, 2026, in the Bay Area or virtually.
  • Participate.
  • Complete most of the assignments.
  • Start a study group of two or more.
  • Use your personal AI assistants.
  • Practice the strategies.
Time and participation are the most valuable things anyone gives to anyone.
An opportunity to contribute.
  • Like most people, we want to have a positive impact on the world around us. If you join us in the course, you will be one of those in “the world around us.”
  • Our commitment is to you. We will assist you in figuring out what you want in your life and the actions that will move you to those results. That is in part of what is behind the name, Communicating To Results, Beyond Judgments To Actions.

Money that offsets our costs.
  • The course income will not make us a profit. We want to cover some of our costs.

  • Our company, New Breakthroughs, LLC, makes money by selling products and services, not education. We got most of what we learned for free, and we give it for free.

  • We get your feedback as we refine ways to teach this material and assist you in changing your actions and producing the results you want.
  • You become our co-authors of our newest book and our AI products.

Results

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Most people stop themselves from taking actions to get what they want by believing they have tried for years and being sure they can’t achieve it. In our course, in only a few months, we are confident you will create significant, measurable, and permanent results you never imagined possible.

This includes the death of a parent, spouse, or even a child. It also could be the loss of your money, your treasured possessions, or even close friends.

When dealing with loved ones as they near the end of their life, we can be at peace and assist them in a major transition. They might even be in hospice care, and everyone can accept and even celebrate their life.

This is particularly valuable as we face our own mortality and even when we know death is coming soon.

We often regret some of the big mistakes we have made in our lives. We can move to full self-forgiveness.

These mistakes include damaging your health, wealth, and important relationships.

Learn to communicate in many brand-new, almost radical ways so that your most important results are achieved quickly.

These can include traumatic events such as physical violence, sexual assault, and incest.

Alzheimer’s and other related cognitive struggles in those we love are challenging. You can develop new and effective ways to deal with and communicate with them. You can make peace with the disease.

This is specifically relevant if your children are causing you significant grief, exhibiting troubling behavior in school, or even having difficulties with the law.

In several months, you can be well on your way.

Many people have achieved it long before they are aware that they have reached that milestone.

After a few years, people often lose the romance. It can be rekindled within weeks with proper communication that includes way fewer words.

Thirty percent or more is easily achievable with new actions that increase your income and your profit while increasing the results you deliver to your clients.

If this list sounds too good to be true, and if you’ve continuing to read, you are already moving beyond skepticism. The next step is experimentation.

In this course, we ask you to test new suggestions, even if you don’t understand them or believe they will work.

Strategies & Suggestions

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  • We don’t have to understand a new tool (like a new car or a new phone) to use it. We don’t even need to believe that it will work. Just experiment with it.

  • If it works, use it. If not, lose it.
  • We don’t claim these are universal rules. They are descriptions of this new way to communicate.

When upset or confusion remain, start with the most primal actions and move to the most sophisticated. Continue until clarity returns.

  • Breathe
  • Smell
  • Swallow
  • Vocalize
  • Touch
  • Listen
  • Look 
  • Move 
  • Speak
  • Write
  • Get to “It’s OK.” Let it go.
  • We can trust the evolution of the universe, and besides, we can’t control it anyway. Know that we have dealt with everything up to now, and we will deal with whatever happens next even if we don’t like it.
  • Worrying about what might happen is natural, and not helpful. We can learn to worry less and act more.
  • We cannot control our thoughts, and when we’re having ones we do not like or ones that are confusing, we can do one of the actions we can control.
  • It is almost impossible to think one thing and simultaneously speak or write another. Speaking slows down and starts organizing our thoughts. Writing slows and organizes thoughts even more and solidifies them.
  • When upset with feelings we do not like, the fastest way to change them is to breathe, smell, swallow, vocalize, touch, listen, look, move, and speak very little until the feeling changes. Speaking usually stops emoting. 
  • We can imagine we are watching an interesting movie that is sometimes happy and sometimes not.

Focus only on what can be directly sensed.

Smell
Taste
Touch
Hear
See
 
We cannot directly observe other’s thoughts and feelings.

Begin with our most primal actions to the most sophisticated. 

Breathing
Swallowing
Vocalizing
Touching
Listening
Looking
All other movements
       The above actions often communicate more than what we say or write.
Speaking
Writing
 

Begin with their most primal actions to the most sophisticated. 

Breathing
Swallowing
Vocalizing
Touching
Listening
Looking
All other movements
       The above actions often communicate more than what they say or write.
Speaking
Writing 
 
We cannot know what they are feeling or thinking, and assuming we do by what they write or even say is problematic.
  • Spend more and more time with people when receiving and sending. This includes listening and talking and all the other ways we send and receive.
  •  We can find this time by spending much less time alone surfing the net, watching TV, and even other activities that we consider productive, which can continue when combined with times when we are receiving and sending.
  • We can exercise while talking and listening to others. We can even read out loud with others. Much of this writing was done with another while we both were reading, writing, and speaking.
  • We can make a list of people to communicate with when alone with just our thoughts and feelings.
  • Conventional wisdom is to think before you speak. We are recommending, more often, just speak. If we discover we have said something we regret,  speak some more. We can learn from the reaction of others when we talk.

  • If what we have is really important, we speak before we speak. Rehearsing out loud is a powerful way to prepare to speak powerfully.
  • If we are upset or confused, we speak but not to the people who we are blaming.

  • Speaking our thoughts slows down in our jumbled minds from over 2,000 words a minute to less than 200 words. For many people, when they are speaking thoughtfully, it is less than 100 words a minute.

  • Once we have reached clarity, write what was spoken to further clarify and reinforce it. Most of us, when we type carefully, use less than 50 words a minute, and when handwriting, down to about 20 a minute.

  • Our point of view fully influences how we see current events, family members, friends, and cultures that are not familiar to us.

  • We can change it by our actions of speaking and writing. This way, others know our point of view, and we deepen it within our selves.
  • Our point of view can also be call our opinion, belief, or assumption which most of us are really attached to. When we are willing to be open to others beliefs we can surrender when ever challenged.
  • Many of us are upset with the opinions of others. There is no value in that and we can learn to be completely tolerent.
  • When another person stops talking or even stops to take a breath, wait for at least 3.8 seconds.
  • People want time to think and maybe say more.
  • A pause indicates our continued interest in what they have to communicate.
  • Keep your eyes on their face and their breath. Those provide clues as to their interest in what you have to communicate.
  • They often guide or even attempt to control the speaker instead of letting that person fully express themselves before they are complete.

  • Questions often contain advice disguised as curiosity. They can always be replaced by clear statements of desire. “I would like to know more.” Even when you are in need. “I’m curious where the bathroom is.”

  • Of course, questions can be expressing curiosity and sincere interest. They can also be an opening for “discussing” (or debating) what was said.
  • One of the most damaging judgments that we can eliminate is labeling others or ourselves as the way it is. It reinforces the notion that change is difficult or even impossible. 

  • “Labeling is disabling” is one of my favorite reminders that I learned decades ago, and I now apply in a radical way to myself and others. 

  • Instead of the label, we can describe the behavior that either moves us to the results we want or takes us further away. Otherwise, it can be the ultimate excuse.
  • Lazy, irresponsible, crazy, rude, thoughtless, and stupid are some of the obvious examples. Stop it!
  • This is not an unusual strategy, but it is one that most people don’t use. 
  • You cannot predict or control the future, and trying to control it is a waste of energy. Create a detailed picture of a future beyond your current dreams. This can then be a magnet pulling you to new actions which you can control.
  • Set aside hours a week where you mostly speak about and then write about what you want in all areas of your life for the rest of your life and beyond. Do this with others while they do it also. Speak, listen, and write. Gather in groups of two or three.
  • You can do it with different people depending on the areas of life most important to you.
  • Create a detailed vision for every aspect of your life including your happiness (mode, emotions), health (your body and your environment), love (all your relationships), wealth (money, possessions), and contribution (all the ways you give to others).
  • For assistance doing this, you can refer to our book Creating Your Future.
  • Create a long list of the ways of being that you most want to manifest in your life. Start from scratch and then seek inspiration from others. One example is on page 32 of Falling Awake.
  • Take the time to arrange it, polish it, and prioritize what is most important to BE in your life. We are not Human Havings or Human Doings. We are Human Beings. Our number one suggestion is to have your values lead to your actions, and not have actions driven by your results. The ends never justify the means.
  • From your long list of values, pick two or three you can constantly check yourself for alignment. When you’re not living your values, act differently. You really can’t predict the future, and your best guess is often wrong. That leads to actions not at all consistent with what you most value.
  • The biggest missing action in producing the results that we want is our movement. Get off our seat. Most everything we do can be done more effectively when we are not sitting down.
  • As we read that sentence, we can notice all the arguments floating through our mind. Instead of arguing with this idea, give it a try.
  • Even meditation is often recommended to be done while standing, swaying, dancing, or walking.
  • If we want to relax, we can fully relax by lying down. If we want to sleep, we don’t do it in a chair. If we want to write or type, we can use a standup desk.
  • When you use the pronoun you to describe a behavior, it can be very useful.
  • When we interpret the behavior and speak that, we usually label, blame, or shame the other.
  • We say things like You are irresponsible, or You are a liar. Both are shaming and hardly ever produce the results we want.
  • Do it dozens of times a day.
  • Once on your feet, move them a lot. Walk them, run them, dance them, bounce them, and even pace with them. When you want to have a conversation with someone, go for a walk. When you’re on the phone walk outside, around your house, and where you work. 
  • Communicate way less on video platforms. Most people do it while sitting, and even if you do it from your feet, you tend to stand in one position much too long.
  • In addition to moving your feet, use your hands a lot.
  • In addition to typing, write by hand. 
  • Massage yourself many times a day. Have one hand touch, stroke, and massage the other. Massage every part of your own body. Also, involve those hands in all of your communication. Gesture.
  • Touch others as often as possible. Shake their hand. Pat them on the back. When you can, massage them.
  • Many of us talk a lot. Talk more when upset or confused. Move your mouth and lips even when you are not talking. Your face movements communicate much more than your words. Have it send the messages you want.
  • When listening, have your face send your respect and interest. When speaking, have it match your words and notice how often it doesn’t.
  • Not taking credit is something most agree with even though we still do it in subtle ways.
  • The second part most people disagree with. “I give my team credit, my teachers, or my parents.”
  • The problem with both is that they assign a cause in a world of infinite causes. In that way they establish rules that constrain our actions.
  • Don’t ask this of yourself and don’t answer it the way it often implies. Often we dive into psychological explanations and stories about past influences. Human beings are too complicated to explain with our limited knowledge of how our amazing systems work.
  • Such questions also drive us to being defensive. We do what we do, and we often can’t accurately explain or justify it.

  • They can be answered with a variation of, “I talked it through and got clear that this was the action that would be most likely to produce the result I want.”

  • Such questions can be replaced with questions such as “What are the many benefits of…” or “What are several possible causes of…”. Better yet, they can be replaced with statements like “Tell me what benefits would provide.” Or “Talk about the several possible causes of that.”

  • Advice comes from the Old French avis and is singular. We say “I offer you advice.” This grammatical structure treats it as a single thing, not one of many. We don’t say “I offer you my advices.”

  • We can say, “I offer you my suggestions.” Even if we use the singular, as in “I offer you a suggestion”, the word suggestion is preceded by the indefinite article a, which implies that it is one of many. We can’t say or mean, “I offer you an advice.”

  • This is our advice, avoid the word advice. And know that is one of our many many pieces of advice or suggestions.

  • When two ideas are linked by but, separate them into two sentences. The but almost always negates or argues against the first part of the sentence.

  • The idea of communication is to reinforce our continued practice of surrendering to that over which we have no control.

  • These words qualify the two messages and usually create a false or single causation. They are also argumentative.

  • There are always many causes for every result. And, every cause produces many results.
  • Human beings are too complicated to be described with simple Newtonian physics.
  • Long-lasting change does not happen when you are scolding the other person.
  • Even slight displeasure through words, tone, or expression is antagonistic. And, doesn’t work.
  • Say what you observe. Speak what you want.
  • Repeat, repeat, and repeat while not being attached to the result.
  • Long-term change generally requires a lot of practice.
  • These communications reinforce in ourselves a lack of being fully responsible. People do it constantly, and it never changes the result. It halts our education and weakens the effect of our communication.

  • Instead describe past actions, and the next ones you plan. The movie was right “Love means never having to say you’re sorry.”

  • The car still crashed and the damage is done no matter how good the excuses.

  • We are often upset about something that is happening to people we do not even know or to people the people we know know.

  • Careful of third hand information that the lawyers call hearsay. 
  • Deal more with what is happening to you directly or to someone you love.
  • This might be one of the most controversial suggestions. It reinforces guilt about what has already occurred rather than learning from it. When some action doesn’t produce the results wanted, appreciate discovering that and plan more actions to get what you want.

  • Saying that you are sorry or even that you regret it, is arrogant. It fails to recognize all of the factors that go into producing any result. You didn’t produce the “good” or the “bad” ones by yourself. Even to assume that you made the biggest contribution often isn’t accurate.
  • The movie might be right “Love means never having to say you’re sorry.”
  • An option is to say “I did this …” and “I plan to do this …”
  • If you think some action was a mistake, no need to label it as such. You are not smart enough to know the eventual outcomes of what life brings us. You cannot really know if it was a mistake.
  • All you can know is that your action was the best action you could have taken and the result is not what you want. Then, take more action.

Articles

Thinking Versus Speaking and Writing Rates

By David B. Ellis (1/20/26) A central distinction in action-focused speaking is the dramatic difference between the speed of human thinking and the speed of external expression. This distinction was first introduced in Becoming a Master Student and later refined through learning-through-action teaching and communicating. [1]. Human thinking operates at extraordinary speed.

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The Origins of Communicating To Results, Beyond Judgments To Actions

Communicating To Results is a term coined in 2025 by educator and author David B. Ellis to describe a way of communicating that most directly influences outcomes in complex human systems. Although the name is recent, the work itself represents the integration of more than five decades of study, teaching, research, and applied inquiry into ways language, intentions, and actions influence results in what he calls Action Coaching.

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Communicating To Results, Beyond Judgments To Actions

This work focuses exclusively on what the individual communicator can actually control and surrendering everything else.

Surrender is defined as accepting, allowing, releasing, permitting, not fighting, and not resisting. It does not mean giving up or being passive. It means stopping the attempt to control what cannot be controlled.

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FAQs

All interactive instruction will be recorded for you to view, listen to, and participate in fully. Watch them with others and do the exercises along with the other participants.

The recordings are available for you to share.

Your level of participation is up to you. For years, we tried to manage and even control the way participants acted. That is a waste of our time and an insult to you.

We trust you to manage your time in a way that gives you the results that you want.

Nine months is a long time, longer than most people might dedicate to this practice.

No problem. We are confident you can get a lot of value in even half of the course. If we could tailor it to each individual participant, we would. You can.

No. We are charging you for the opportunity and the practice to learn these strategies. We are charging for this result: You significantly and permanently improve your communication and your life.

Dave Ellis describes his teaching

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We are here for you – your goals, your agenda, your life.

Our focus is on your happiness, health, love, wealth, and contribution.

 

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